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Exploring the feelings behind the worldview theme--another project WORLDVIEW  theme song...  

song for theme #29B: The Threatening, Violent Person

ďYou Use Fear and I PayĒ by Stephen P. Cook

to be sung to the tune of ďYou Give Love a Bad NameĒ by Bon Jovi, Child, and Sambora / Bon Jovi

Of wife beating you disapprove1

Why donít I think youíre telling the truth?

The fact is you dominate me

Cajoling and controlling, Iím not free

 

Oh! You mean son of a gun  [Yeah!]

Oh! Being bulliedís no fun

I canít love you with what Iíve been through

 

Verbal abuse most every day

You use fear and I pay

[I pay]

You intimidate, I have no say

You use fear and I pay

[I pay]

Hey, you use fear and I pay

 

In the bedroom I canít say no

Canít run from you, got nowhere to go

The way you grab me when youíre mad

Leaves me bruised and sore, hurtiní real bad

 

Oh! You mean son of a gun  [Yeah!]

Oh! Being bulliedís no fun

I canít love you with what Iíve been through

 

Threatening me most every day

You use fear and I pay

[I pay]

 

You intimidate, I have no say

You use fear and I pay

[I pay]

Hey, you use fear and I pay

 

Iím a bad mother, you proclaim

You say Iím taking drugs, thatís to blame

Telling lies, youíre not bothered one bit

You threaten divorce, taking the kids

 

Oh! You mean son of a gun  [Yeah!]

Oh! Being bulliedís no fun

I canít love you with what Iíve been through

 

Verbal abuse most every day

You use fear and I pay

[I pay]

You intimidate, I have no say

You use fear and I pay

[I pay]

Hey, you use fear and I pay

 

Threatening me most every day

You use fear and I pay

[I pay]

You intimidate, I have no say

You use fear and I pay

[I pay]

You use fear, You use fear      [I pay]

  

SONGóNOTES / COMMENTS

1óWhile this song tells a story from a battered wifeís viewpoint, more generally it is about domestic violence. This occurs when one person in a relationship (or family) attempts to control or dominateó either physically or psychologicallyó the other (or another family member).  This can range from continual emotionally abusive name-calling/putdowns to sexual/physical assault.    

Comment: this theme has value as emotional armor.  Armed with belief that you are feared and known to be someone not to be crossed, they have less reason to fear others and more to expect to get what you want. In looking for personality factors (five of them were introduced in Part Ia) behind threatening behavior, Carver & Connor-Smith write, ďPeople low in agreeableness use displays of power to deal with social conflict.Ē

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